I know that as children get older they bring more challenges. Gosh I've been told that plenty of times as I've been fighting the battles of the very early years. But you know I think in the early days all we need to know is that what we're battling right now will get easier. Never mind all the other stuff I haven't even contemplated yet, will this challenge ease one day? Please?
My two are on the brink of five (Reuben) and three (Esther), and while I think we're still in the trenches of pre-school life, I know we've come a long way. Really, a long way. There are so many things I don't have to manage anymore. There are things that are easier.
If you're a parent with kids smaller than mine, I'd love to tell you what has become easier for me. And these are just the things that I have noticed along the way, and been grateful for as they have changed, as the list may get really long if I brainstorm it all (hooray!).
If you are a parent, I'd love to hear about what has become easier for you. I know there are plenty of new difficult stages, but let's try to just think about the easier things. Even if you have a 3 month old, I bet you can come up with one or two things; new skills you have mastered or little encouraging changes in your wee babe.
Here's my list, and I'm looking forward to reading yours in the comments below.
- They both sleep through the night, and past 7am.
- I don't have to spoon feed them every mouthful anymore.
- Esther no longer throws her bowl on to the floor at the end of every meal.
- Both children are able to communicate to me what is wrong when they are distressed in the middle of the night.
- I don't have to heave them in and out of places in their capsule anymore.
- Reuben keeps Esther occupied and she adores him. The intensity of that first child is, in ordinary circumstances, never to be repeated, when siblings are in the mix.
- They climb in and out of the car on their own (and for a while there Reuben could put his own straps on - hallelujah! - but then sadly we progressed to the more difficult seat belt).
- When feeling inclined, Reuben can help with loading and unloading the dishwasher. And they both take their bowls to the kitchen after dinner.
- Esther whipped the cream last night while I prepared the pudding. Yes!
And those are just a few, I'm sure. I've always really looked forward to my children talking, and have often said "surely everything is easier when they can communicate." And it is. Of course, sometimes all the talking does my head in and I want nothing but quiet! But it is wonderful and it really does make life easier.
Do take a moment to focus on the changes you are grateful for, and bring some encouragement to someone else in the next trench along.
|January 2012. Reuben being able to read on his own, and to his sister, will be a great day!|